This probably reveals some level of middle-class naivety on my part, but like, the modern consensus seems to be, "stepparents may not necessarily love their stepkids, but they're the fucking adults so they have to at least pretend and try to be nice," and you're generally gonna get kinda judged if you just dump the kids right off.
I don't disagree with any of this, but the thing that's always absolutely boggled my mind is the pass the other parent gets in this scenario. Like, these are your actual biological offspring and you will happily dump them out of sight, out of mind, to go make new biological children with a different person.
Like, I can understand the stepparent's ambivalence or even reluctance to take on the responsibility of someone else's kids (no, it's not selfless, but it's understandable). But mentally dealing with the actual blood-and-DNA parent wiping their hands so easily is where my naivety comes in.
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Date: 2021-08-07 01:10 pm (UTC)I don't disagree with any of this, but the thing that's always absolutely boggled my mind is the pass the other parent gets in this scenario. Like, these are your actual biological offspring and you will happily dump them out of sight, out of mind, to go make new biological children with a different person.
Like, I can understand the stepparent's ambivalence or even reluctance to take on the responsibility of someone else's kids (no, it's not selfless, but it's understandable). But mentally dealing with the actual blood-and-DNA parent wiping their hands so easily is where my naivety comes in.