concrete ways that early-stage bosses can feed them high profile projects
i've seen articles that describe this as sponsorship vs mere mentorship and i agree it's hugely undervalued. for the love of god, don't just feed all your gruntwork to whoever's obliging enough to take it; the folks with that kind of work ethic are the people who you want to actively sponsor for bigger opportunities!
re: the identity group thing: iiiinteresting.
i spent a while here typing up & deleting different theories for why those feelings might come up more in "identity"-type groups than professional-type-associations but i found myself mostly failing and flailing, alas! my vague hunch is that it's got something to do with how a lot of identity groups define themselves as oppositional in some way, and if the thing(s) they're placing themselves in opposition to include stuff that's actually another part of your identity, then it leaves the sour taste of being asked to deny parts of yourself. the closest comparison i've personally experienced might be "women in tech" groups, which tend to have a flavor of "we are women in tech [and thus find major parts of tech culture distasteful]," which leaves me feeling really awkward if i actually like huge swaths of tech culture! (like, that one time i went to a ladytech event where someone snarked about "dudes who are obsessed with weird Linux command line tricks", when i was just about to tell them about a weird command line trick—ahh!!! the worst!!!) i wonder if the groups you described fall into that sort of thing? (which honestly reminds me of one of the books i just reviewed, in terms of additive vs oppositional identity, lol)
ANYWAY
YEAH THAT WAS A RAMBLE
i look forward to your longer complicated post :P :)
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Date: 2019-02-13 10:15 am (UTC)i've seen articles that describe this as sponsorship vs mere mentorship and i agree it's hugely undervalued. for the love of god, don't just feed all your gruntwork to whoever's obliging enough to take it; the folks with that kind of work ethic are the people who you want to actively sponsor for bigger opportunities!
re: the identity group thing: iiiinteresting.
i spent a while here typing up & deleting different theories for why those feelings might come up more in "identity"-type groups than professional-type-associations but i found myself mostly failing and flailing, alas! my vague hunch is that it's got something to do with how a lot of identity groups define themselves as oppositional in some way, and if the thing(s) they're placing themselves in opposition to include stuff that's actually another part of your identity, then it leaves the sour taste of being asked to deny parts of yourself. the closest comparison i've personally experienced might be "women in tech" groups, which tend to have a flavor of "we are women in tech [and thus find major parts of tech culture distasteful]," which leaves me feeling really awkward if i actually like huge swaths of tech culture! (like, that one time i went to a ladytech event where someone snarked about "dudes who are obsessed with weird Linux command line tricks", when i was just about to tell them about a weird command line trick—ahh!!! the worst!!!) i wonder if the groups you described fall into that sort of thing? (which honestly reminds me of one of the books i just reviewed, in terms of additive vs oppositional identity, lol)
ANYWAY
YEAH THAT WAS A RAMBLE
i look forward to your longer complicated post :P :)